I haven’t logged in here for a while but I saw an update with your post and it’s poignant for me at the moment too so I had a look. I’ll share a few things in the way AJ did so that there are some tips for others too. (ignore the deletes, I made a mess editing)
I think you’re on the right track about wanting to teach her about the evils of the ‘attention economy’ but it’s actually really hard to find content aimed at her age group. It’s all mostly for teens or very young kids. I did find this one clip though which I think is a great summation of divided attention based on the same hard science I’ve recently learnt The Distracted Mind - YouTube
Keep in mind that ‘Rome wasn’t built in a day’ and this is an ongoing conversation not a bite size clip. Mental health concerns are much worse when kids don’t have the skills and tools of discernment. The bullying, and the effects of bullying, gets worse when kids don’t understand easily our emotions can be affected much more easily through media tricks (advertising is now on steroids). Self esteem issues are just the top of the iceberg and cyber safety is a fundamental skill to start off with in order to build understanding about psychological profiling, conditioning and and micro targeting which all preys on our self-esteem and other vulnerabilities - see Alexander Nix: From Mad Men to Math Men | OMR Festival 2017 - Hamburg, Germany | #OMR17 - YouTube
When it comes to resources for kids public broadcasters like the one here in Australia have a charter which means they have a social responsibility to do content like this program aimed at teens Social Media Me - Shows - ABC ME
This clip taught me the term ‘digital citizenship’ which makes sense and is useful to know. I did a search on YT for “digital citizenship for younger kids’ - I recommend you give that a try and look for things you think she might like. https://www.youtube.com/c/CommonSenseEducators
They also have a Twitter feed for parents https://twitter.com/CommonSense
I literally am studying psychology so that I can produce content teaching kids about the science of perception so I read a lot on the topic of disinfo and how to manage the social media engagement of kids and the advice which made the most sense to me, is that just like learning to cross the road, social media engagement is best done gradually and with guidance so every bit of time you can spend with her doing things that are fun and guiding her about the challenges as they come up is worth its weight in gold.
A lot if this stuff comes down to understanding how the technology works and realising it’s a tool that needs to be used safely because as much as it poses threats it also provides wonderful things like connection and learning. There is a concept called ‘fireside time’, it describes a wellbeing need for passive engagement that used to be met by staring into a fire or staring at the night sky. It’s a kind of mental defrag. Sometimes screen time fulfils this need expressed as ‘fireside time’. It may be helpful to know that because there is a lot of guilting that goes on when you’re a parent. Everyone thinks they know how you should do it and they are all wrong because they aren’t you and they don’t have the child you have.
I’ve seen friends set up an interest based account for their kids that is is anonymous. I thought it was really clever to turn the focus onto an interest from the beginning so that the camera is pointed at ideas not looks. This is particularly important for girls who are bombarded by the ‘look at me’ content rather than the ‘see what I can do’ content. So maybe it’s something to consider as a compromise with your daughter eg. if she loves animals maybe it’s about taking photos of animals, putting some interesting info on the photos and uploading them - you’d do this with her but under an account that you have the password to. In doing this with her she will learn the basics of what to think about in relation to social media - not just wanting to be on it because her friends are.
Also if playing games online with friends is the goal eg. Roblox, Minecraft or Toca Boca then make sure to check out parental controls carefully from the very start. Make sure she understand that it she doesn’t know someone in real life then their profile info could be all made up. It’s not dissimilar to the neighbourhood safety discussion and you can pretty much adapt real life neighbourhood safety with virtual, as they get older that they learn a bit about psychological conditioning to help protect them against recruitment (I have two friends whose teenage kids were recruited into extremism through online gaming, those companies really need to do better at moderating).
It’s also worth considering shifting the focus from social media per se onto learning about the neuroscience of perception but this is where there is a real lack of great content for this age group unfortunately. She would possibly enjoy the selective attention test
There’s also a great trick you can do with a piece of paper explained here How to Teach Perspective | Kid Lessons - YouTube although I’d suggest rather than just turning the piece of paper around you say “can you come and have a look at it from my side?” as the physicality of asking her to adjust her perspective to see what you see could work really well too.
It’s also really worth learning about Kahneman’s System 1 thinking vs System 2 thinking if you haven’t come across it yet as this distinction is at the heart of skills needed to deal with the attention economy.
If it’s TikTok she is after then I can only say that I do not envy parents of today. Really do your homework on tiktok. I wouldn’t let any kids near that. At least we are starting to see some standards on other platforms.
I’ll try and end on a positive. I’ve seen the best understanding of these issues from kids who are encouraged to investigate and who have been taught the valuable lesson of perspective and of cognitive tricks. Magic is a wonderful way to get this through to kids as an ongoing conversation so here’s something fun. The vocab and the stats is possibly over her head but the basic premise should still cut through Magic Isn't Magic: It's Psychology - YouTube
Good luck with it. I’d love to hear if any of this turned out to be useful and if I find more age appropriate content I’ll let you know.